Your Scores

11 Acts of Service
7 Quality Time
7 Receiving Gifts
3 Physical Touch
2 Words of Affirmation


apology languages

8 Expressing Regret
4 Make Restitution
3 Accept Responsibility
3 Genuinely Repent
2 Request Forgiveness


anger assessment

Action Steps

  1. You would benefit from better understanding the distinction between good anger and bad anger. Definitive (or “good”) anger, as Dr. Chapman describes it, is a normal response to genuine wrongdoing, injustice, or mistreatment. Distorted (or “bad”) anger, on the other hand, is our response to others when we have incorrectly perceived a construed wrongdoing, injustice, or mistreatment. We don’t have all the facts correct in distorted anger. Learn some other key differences between the two responses in chapter four of this book.
  2. Some people look like they have it all together on the outside and rarely appear out of control due to anger, while underneath the façade they tend to simmer with unexamined anger. This “implosive” anger can be characterized by brooding or withdrawal, among other expressions. Dr. Chapman identifies key strategies to deal with implosive anger in chapter six of his book.